Updated: Dec 20, 2019
Tis the season for single people to be ever reminded by mistletoes and midnight kisses, that they are indeed single. Family members will ask how the dating scene is as you're nearing 30, and friends will be extra gushy in they're existing relationships. How will you deal?
LADIES, IMAGINE THIS:
YOU STOP IDEALIZING MARRIAGE
AND START ACTING LIKE A 20-SOMETHING-YEAR OLD
WITH HER WHOLE LIFE AHEAD OF HER,
YOU GET AN EDUCATION, YOU TRAVEL THE WORLD,
AND YOU STOP ASSUMING YOUR LIFE STARTS
AND ENDS WITH A HUSBAND.
I needed this quote a couple days ago. The dating scene is much harder now than I believe it has ever been. Communication skills have been increasingly depleting due to the convenience of technology, and perhaps because we live in a fatherless generation. People are all about being free and for themselves. We are so busy making money and making something of ourselves that the idea of settling down makes some millennials feel claustrophobic.
We draw into ourselves and become hyper-protective of our social stance and convictions and decide no one is ever good enough for us. Why? Remember your weaknesses? Remember the mistakes you made then learned from? Why is someone else not allowed the same grace you gave yourself? If you do end up in a relationship, will you have ungodly standards none can reach? How will this reflect on your children? Time to turn down...
I hope things take a shift before I bring little ones into the world. I desire to teach my potential son how to communicate and be a gentleman who doesn't play confusing games or go too quickly with a girl. LIfe's a bit different now ladies, how will we cope?
I'm taking it upon myself to delete my dating apps soon. I'll either pay for one where I know other paying members are actually serious about finding a quality and good relationship and/or start volunteering places. My life might end up like a Hallmark movie love story! That's neat. Maybe we ought to take notes this season, from Hallmark movie scripts...it's the same story every movie and the characters always find love after laying their pride down.
Surely I'll find like-minds in a volunteering opportunity.
I'm a nanny and an entrepreneur in the beauty industry. I am always surrounded by kids and mom's unless I am in my college classes. Then, I'm surrounded by people married and older than me. So dating apps is just what I've had. Not anymore! Its time to give and pray their comes a gain somewhere, somehow in another way!
I've been encouraged to write a list of what I desire in a partner. I haven't done it yet. I'm unsure how I feel about that...a bit mixed. I know that when I date, I think of my potential son. I want to be proud of the example I've found for him and to be with a gentleman I'm proud to have lead, protect and rightly love my daughter. There is so much more that goes into it. Looks fade, so a connection is obviously important!
It can get better, single ladies! Think up how. Where can you volunteer? Maybe pay for that dating site where you can find more stable people unafraid of commitment. I'm on it! Viv wants a fam! Praying for it, doing something about it, hoping for change in the dating scene as of late.
On that note, fella's who are dating and are married....can you find your single friends and mentor them? Help them out? It's so needed!
Desperation calls. We need a mega-shift in this area! It starts with us. Don't settle!